I think this song is one of the most affecting ever written about loss. What makes it so poignant is its message that while some loss is inevitable - part of the life cycle - much of it is down to us, a choice we can make: "you do lose, what you don't hold". Thus, rather than dwell on grief the song passes through it and exhorts us to live and love, even having the audacity to invoke the blues, not as a medium for mourning but celebrating. It makes me cry every time I hear it but also inspires me to optimism, to embrace what I have, to not allow love and friendship to grow "cold" or "taciturn" but to "dig up your bone, exhume your pine cone". What a song, what a singer.